configure: allow setting the default SSL backend

Previously, we used as default SSL backend whatever was first in the
`available_backends` array.

However, some users may want to override that default without patching
the source code.

Now they can: with the --with-default-ssl-backend=<backend> option of
the ./configure script.

Signed-off-by: Johannes Schindelin <johannes.schindelin@gmx.de>