CURLOPT_TCP_NODELAY: now enabled by default

After a few wasted hours hunting down the reason for slowness during a
TLS handshake that turned out to be because of TCP_NODELAY not being
set, I think we have enough motivation to toggle the default for this
option. We now enable TCP_NODELAY by default and allow applications to
switch it off.

This also makes --tcp-nodelay unnecessary, but --no-tcp-nodelay can be
used to disable it.

Thanks-to: Tim Rühsen
Bug: https://curl.haxx.se/mail/lib-2016-06/0143.html