Keep the DTLS timer running after the end of the handshake if appropriate

During a full handshake the server is the last one to "speak". The timer
should continue to run until we know that the client has received our last
flight (e.g. because we receive some application data).

Reviewed-by: Rich Salz <rsalz@openssl.org>
(Merged from https://github.com/openssl/openssl/pull/6170)