Add support to free/allocate SSL buffers

OpenSSL already has the feature of SSL_MODE_RELEASE_BUFFERS that can
be set to release the read or write buffers when data has finished
reading or writing. OpenSSL will automatically re-allocate the buffers
as needed. This can be quite aggressive in terms of memory allocation.

This provides a manual mechanism. SSL_free_buffers() will free
the data buffers if there's no pending data. SSL_alloc_buffers()
will realloc them; but this function is not strictly necessary, as it's
still done automatically in the state machine.

Reviewed-by: Richard Levitte <levitte@openssl.org>
Reviewed-by: Rich Salz <rsalz@openssl.org>
(Merged from https://github.com/openssl/openssl/pull/2240)