DTLS revision.

Revise DTLS code. There was a *lot* of code duplication in the
DTLS code that generates records. This makes it harder to maintain and
sometimes a TLS update is omitted by accident from the DTLS code.

Specifically almost all of the record generation functions have code like
this:

some_pointer = buffer + HANDSHAKE_HEADER_LENGTH;
... Record creation stuff ...
set_handshake_header(ssl, SSL_MT_SOMETHING, message_len);

...

write_handshake_message(ssl);

Where the "Record creation stuff" is identical between SSL/TLS and DTLS or
in some cases has very minor differences.

By adding a few fields to SSL3_ENC to include the header length, some flags
and function pointers for handshake header setting and handshake writing the
code can cope with both cases.

(cherry picked from commit 173e72e6)