Enable SSL_MODE_AUTO_RETRY by default

Because TLS 1.3 sends more non-application data records some clients run
into problems because they don't expect SSL_read() to return and set
SSL_ERROR_WANT_READ after processing it.

This can cause problems for clients that use blocking I/O and use
select() to see if data is available. It can be cleared using
SSL_CTX_clear_mode().

Reviewed-by: Matt Caswell <matt@openssl.org>
GH: #6260