Simplify SSL BIO buffering logic

The write BIO for handshake messages is bufferred so that we only write
out to the network when we have a complete flight. There was some
complexity in the buffering logic so that we switched buffering on and
off at various points through out the handshake. The only real reason to
do this was historically it complicated the state machine when you wanted
to flush because you had to traverse through the "flush" state (in order
to cope with NBIO). Where we knew up front that there was only going to
be one message in the flight we switched off buffering to avoid that.

In the new state machine there is no longer a need for a flush state so
it is simpler just to have buffering on for the whole handshake. This
also gives us the added benefit that we can simply call flush after every
flight even if it only has one message in it. This means that BIO authors
can implement their own buffering strategies and not have to be aware of
the state of the SSL object (previously they would h...