use SSL_kECDHE throughout instead of SSL_kEECDH

ECDHE is the standard term used by the RFCs and by other TLS
implementations.  It's useful to have the internal variables use the
standard terminology.

This patch leaves a synonym SSL_kEECDH in place, though, so that older
code can still be built against it, since that has been the
traditional API.  SSL_kEECDH should probably be deprecated at some
point, though.