protocol handler: added flags field

The protocol handler struct got a 'flags' field for special information
and characteristics of the given protocol.

This now enables us to move away central protocol information such as
CLOSEACTION and DUALCHANNEL from single defines in a central place, out
to each protocol's definition. It also made us stop abusing the protocol
field for other info than the protocol, and we could start cleaning up
other protocol-specific things by adding flags bits to set in the
handler struct.

The "protocol" field connectdata struct was removed as well and the code
now refers directly to the conn->handler->protocol field instead. To
make things work properly, the code now always store a conn->given
pointer that points out the original handler struct so that the code can
learn details from the original protocol even if conn->handler is
modified along the way - for example when switching to go over a HTTP
proxy.