"apachectl stop" shouldn't send the gracefully-terminate char down

the pod...  the child processes need to know that it isn't a graceful
termination and they shouldn't wait for old connections to finish


git-svn-id: https://svn.apache.org/repos/asf/httpd/httpd/trunk@94024 13f79535-47bb-0310-9956-ffa450edef68