BIO_lookup_ex: Always retry the lookup on failure with AI_NUMERICHOST set

Do not try to discern the error return value on
getaddrinfo() failure but when retrying set the AI_NUMERICHOST
to avoid DNS lookups.

Fixes: #9053

Reviewed-by: Paul Dale <paul.dale@oracle.com>
Reviewed-by: Richard Levitte <levitte@openssl.org>
(Merged from https://github.com/openssl/openssl/pull/9535)

(cherry picked from commit 7f616a00e9232392927099dca1eca70d0d058665)