Handle the server refusing to reneg in a reneg_setup

During setup of a reneg test the server can refuse to start reneg.
If that happens we should let the client continue and then fail.

Reviewed-by: Tim Hudson <tjh@openssl.org>
Reviewed-by: Matt Caswell <matt@openssl.org>
(Merged from https://github.com/openssl/openssl/pull/3432)