Don't set SNI by default if hostname is not dNS name

Reviewed-by: Ben Kaduk <kaduk@mit.edu>
Reviewed-by: Viktor Dukhovni <viktor@openssl.org>
Reviewed-by: Matt Caswell <matt@openssl.org>
(Merged from https://github.com/openssl/openssl/pull/8175)

(cherry picked from commit 8e981051ceecd10754f8f6d1291414a7453c8fac)